In this video, Dr. Allison shares a simple formula for delivering a compassionate and comforting response to those we care about most.
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Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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We meet no ordinary people in our lives.
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Friendship . . . is born at the moment when one man says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .’
Affection is responsible for nine-tenths of whatever solid and durable happiness there is in our natural lives.
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People who bore one another should meet seldom; people who interest one another, often.
'Knock and it shall be opened.’ But does knocking mean hammering and kicking the door like a maniac?
It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for a bird to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. . . . It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.
Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.
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