Below are the best resources we could find featuring megan devine about traumatic grief.
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"Real" grief means you cry all the time, right? Wrong! Real grief looks like a lot of different things, and no one way is the right way. But what if your partner, friends, or family members DO cry, and you don't. Is that weird? Does it cause conflict in your relationship?
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Grief - from any kind of loss - makes the holiday season harder. Knowing how to help can make things better, even when they can’t be made right. Grief therapist and author Megan Devine and illustrator Brittany Bilyeu teamed up to help you learn how to support the people you love.
How do you really help a person after someone they love dies? We often talk about what not to say to a grieving person, but what are the right things to say?
Pain simply. It's a natural, normal response to loss. But the literature in the self-help world, in the therapy world, and sadly, yes even in the world of spiritual guidance, is heavy on blame. Grief is considered unhealthy. A "bad" experience.
Grief shaming happens when we make judgments or decisions about someone's public face of mourning. It happens when we judge whether we think the way someone is grieving is acceptable.
Even without outside assessment, when the person you love disappears in an instant, it can make you question everything. You lose the echo of your life. You can no longer do those reality checks we all do or reach out to your partner for reassurance.
Are you a motherless daughter? That can mean any number of things, from the death of your mom or a mother figure, to the loss of a "good" relationship with your mom or mother figure.
If a grieving person doesn't follow the expected cultural narrative arc, the journey from terrible event to better than ever, then you're not doing grief right. Have you encountered this? Because of this narrative we expect ourselves and each other to find the happy ending.