Life with someone else, in other words, doesn’t show me nearly as much about his or her shortcomings as it does about my own. . . .That’s how relationships sanctify me. They show me where holiness is for me. That’s how relationships develop me. They show me where growth is for me. If I’m the passive-victim type, then assertiveness may have something to do with coming to wholeness. If I’m the domineering character in every group, then a willingness to listen and to be led may be my call to life. Alone, I am what I am, but in community I have the chance to become everything I can be.