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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.
Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.
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Respect the fact that all you do and are now has evolved for a good reason and serves an important purpose.
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When we do not put our primary emotional energy into solving our own problems, we take on other people’s problems as our own.
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Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.
We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.
It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions.