Mitch Albom is a bestselling author, journalist, musician, dramatist, and broadcaster. His inspirational books about life and death, including Tuesdays with Morrie, have sold over forty million copies worldwide.
CLEAR ALL
Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.
The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.
No matter how simplified or complicated life gets, it can make us miserable or it can wake us up.
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Forgiveness is not a feeling; it is a commitment.
We must not confuse letting go of past injuries with feeling an obligation to let the injurers back into our life. The freedom of forgiveness often includes a firm boundary and loving distance from those who have harmed us.
When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.
People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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Forgiveness is not just a selfish pursuit of personal satisfaction or righteousness. It actually alleviates the amount of suffering in the world.
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Letting ourselves be forgiven is one of the most difficult healings we will undertake. And one of the most fruitful.
The major problem of life is learning how to handle the costly interruptions. The door that slams shut, the plan that got sidetracked, the marriage that failed. Or that lovely poem that didn’t get written because someone knocked on the door.