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Ep.19 Say What You Mean With Oren Jay Sofer

The Road Home with Ethan Nichtern

Oren Jay Sofer visits the Road Home Podcast for a conversation about integrating our spiritual practices into how we communicate.

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FindCenter Quotes ImageThe ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.

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Martin Luther King Jr.
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Managing the Flames of Conflict

Conflict doesn’t mean the end of your remarriage, and can actually make it stronger. There are always going to be disagreements; you cannot avoid them entirely. What you can do, however, is become skilled at recovering from disputes by talking about your perspectives afterwards.

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Terry Gaspard
2022
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08:24

How Can You Have More Power By Being Non-Defensive?

A short talk on how shift from ways of using power in our interactions that are defensive and lead to power struggle to gaining far greater power by using non-defensive communication skills.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2013
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04:33

Why Can’t We Think Straight When We Get Defensive?

Defensiveness lives in our bodies; It’s not just a matter of controlling ourselves; the minute we feel any kind of threat it takes over. So how to we get rid of it?

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2013
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04:12

How Can Simple Curious Questions Have Such Disarming Power?

We are used to asking questions in ways that convey judgment and/or are interrogating or entrapping. Much of the body language and tone we use is unconscious. To be real, a question needs to be based on pure curiosity, but it's easier said than done.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2013
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03:26

Six Patterns of Defensive Communication: Sharon Strand Ellison

Sharon Strand Ellison, the author of Taking the War Out of Our Words, is a pioneer in the field of eliminating defensiveness. An international communication consultant and award-winning speaker, Sharon is the Founder and Executive Director of the Institute for Powerful Non-Defensive Communication.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2017
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Taking the War Out of Our Words: The Art of Powerful Non-Defensive Communication

Whether we are dealing with a rude clerk, our child saying, “That’s not fair!,” our spouse ignoring us, or an uncooperative co-worker, in our struggle to respond effectively, we often become defensive—sometimes without even realizing it.

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Sharon Strand Ellison
2025
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02:52

Passive-Aggressive Behavior & Conflict

Passive-aggressive people: Could you be one of them? Passive-aggressive people don't get mad, they get even. When conflict triggers an emotional response, the passive-aggressive pattern is for revenge, by some form of sabotage.

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2011
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Stop Yelling! Here’s How to Use *Mindful* Communication for Conflict Resolution With Your Partner

There’s a gap between what you’re really thinking and what you’re saying. You’re distracted by all that’s going on inside and you’re uncertain about what to share and what’s better left unsaid.

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Barbara Larrivee
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Compassionate Conversations: How to Speak and Listen from the Heart

The definitive guide to learning effective skills for engaging in open and honest conversations about divisive issues from three professional mediators.

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Musho Hamilton, Diane,Wilson, Gabriel Menegale,Loh, Kimberly
2025
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