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Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You

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By Darlene Lancer — 2014

In Conquering Shame and Codependency, Darlene Lancer sheds new light on shame: how codependents’ feelings and beliefs about shame affect their identity, their behavior, and how shame can corrode relationships, destroying trust and love. See more...

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Gary Chapman - The Five Languages of Apology (11/13/2013)

For more Wheaton College 2013-2014 Chapels visit https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9GwT4_YRZdCSd1xjLVgnOLFs19dHkoiL Connect with Wheaton: http://www.wheaton.edu http://www.facebook.com/wheatoncollege.il http://www.twitter.com/wheatoncollege http://www.instagram.com/wheatoncollegeil

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Gary Chapman
2015
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The Dos and Don'ts of Talking to a Loved One About Weight Loss

If you think your partner needs to lose a few, approach 'the talk' with caution. Here's what to say — and what to skip.

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Everyday Health
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Oprah Recalls One of Her Favorite Life Lessons from Maya Angelou - Oprah’s Lifeclass - OWN

After a few relationships gone bad and more than one night waiting by the phone, Oprah learned the hard way that if a man shows you he’s untrustworthy, believe him the first time. Watch Dr. Maya Angelou discuss this important life lesson with Oprah.

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Oprah Winfrey
2011
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Gay Men Going Deeper: Open vs Closed Relationships

Today we cover the hot topic of open relationships in the gay community vs closed relationships! The Gay Men's Brotherhood is a group for gay men to connect with each other on the journey of healing from shame and becoming more authentic and aligned to their truth.

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2020
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FindCenter Quotes ImageIf only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood. Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImageWhen forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.

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FindCenter Quotes ImagePeople’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImageThe best apologies are short, and don’t go on to include explanations that run the risk of undoing them. An apology isn’t the only chance you ever get to address the underlying issue. The apology is the chance you get to establish the ground for future communication.

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Harriet Lerner
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FindCenter Quotes ImageAnger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a...

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FindCenter Quotes ImageFeeling angry signals a problem, venting anger does not solve it. Venting anger may serve to maintain, and even rigidify, the old rules and patterns in a relationship, thus ensuring that change does not occur.

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