By Sonja Sharp — 2021
If there’s one thing I wish nondisabled parents could learn from parents like me, it’s that their anxiety would be better spent elsewhere.
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Women with disabilities often begin to date much later in life, and they struggle in a dating culture that places a premium on physical appearance.
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Women with disabilities are often doubly penalized—for being women and for being disabled.
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