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“I Don’t Need to Be Fixed!” Epiphanies of Self-Acceptance from Adults with ADHD
By ADDitude Editors — 2022
The path to self-acceptance is long and treacherous for adults with ADHD, many of whom mistake their symptoms for personal faults. Here, ADDitude readers share the moments they realized that they weren’t broken at all—and that their wild, wonderful ADHD brains didn’t need fixing.
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