By David Davis — 2020
The Paralympics had not yet been invented. These veterans were sports trailblazers. They were medical miracles as well.
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We’re exploring love in many forms with first-hand accounts from the frontlines of dating, marriage, intimacy and friendship, all with people living—and loving—with disabilities.
If you have ADHD, you might find it hard to date, make friends, or parent. That’s partly because good relationships require you to be aware of other people's thoughts and feelings. But ADHD can make it hard for you to pay attention or react the right way.
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"A dog or other animal in a veteran’s life is a great addition to the healing process."
Veterans are molded by military culture—a unique set of values, traditions, language and humor, with unique subcultures. It has enough consistency across different branches, ranks and time periods to make most veterans feel a kinship.
No matter where you move after the military, even if you’re returning to where you grew up, it takes time and effort to find your sense of belonging. Your civilian job likely won’t provide that as easily as the military did—or at all.
You not calling, as a friend, can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.
Want to get more out of your relationships? Be bold and shrink your social circle.
Love is not found in just one person, but in many people and many aspects of our daily lives.
You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.
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