By Alex Hawgood — 2019
The reality-show star says he’s living with H.I.V., and speaks about being an addict and a sexual abuse survivor.
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CLEAR ALL
But being your authentic self is now more important than ever.
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“Use only that which works, and take it from any place you can find it.” ~ Bruce Lee The premise of his philosophy was efficiency—complete and utter efficiency of the soul.
Ideas of visibility and the closet have largely been shaped by white America and the gay liberation movement of the 1970s. Refusing to subscribe to this narrative gives us space to connect with our gender, our culture and our sexuality on our own terms.
They reflect on rewards, challenges of living authentically.
Although society has made many strides in queer acceptance and visibility, coming out at work is still a monumental—and sometimes risky—task for many LGBTQ workers.
Hiding your feelings can be freeing. But eventually you have to take off the mask.
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Speaking truly, to yourself and to others, does mean being authentic.
The idea of speaking your truth can be like venturing into a world where desires and dreams that give meaning to one’s own heartbeat instantaneously become a target for ridicule, derision, and shaming if exposed to the light of day, especially if the personal truths one espouses fall outside...
The black box is awkward at best and excruciating at worst. But it’s where change happens.
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I hear repeatedly that women, people of color, and others whose identities differ from the dominant culture, feel relentless pressure to hide aspects of their identities and conform in order to be accepted, to “fit in,” and to succeed.