By Deborah J. Cohan — 2017
Family violence is a dynamic process, not an event, that takes varying shapes and forms, often over years, and it can be lodged in caregiving. Caregiving, also a process and not an event, can be lodged in a context of family violence.
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Everyone thinks forgiveness is a lovely idea until he has something to forgive.
Courage is not simply one of the virtues but the form of every virtue at the testing point, which means at the point of highest reality.
'Knock and it shall be opened.’ But does knocking mean hammering and kicking the door like a maniac?
I thought I could describe a state; make a map of sorrow. Sorrow, however, turns out to be not a state but a process.
Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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It may be hard for an egg to turn into a bird: it would be a jolly sight harder for a bird to learn to fly while remaining an egg. We are like eggs at present. And you cannot go on indefinitely being just an ordinary, decent egg. We must be hatched or go bad.
Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man. . . . It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
Spiteful words can hurt your feelings but silence breaks your heart.
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Do not let us mistake necessary evils for good.
Do not dare not to dare.