By Adam Grant — 2020
Rekindling dormant ties can bring unexpected benefits to our lives.
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If you have ADHD, you might find it hard to date, make friends, or parent. That’s partly because good relationships require you to be aware of other people's thoughts and feelings. But ADHD can make it hard for you to pay attention or react the right way.
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From fluctuating financial markets and unique commodities such as gold to industry competition, there are multiple factors that can undermine a fledgling business and ruin a pre-existing relationship between friends and family members.
You not calling, as a friend, can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.
Want to get more out of your relationships? Be bold and shrink your social circle.
It’s not very different from falling out with your spouse or best friends, says Kira Nurieli, CEO of Harmony Strategies Group, a dispute-resolution and crisis-management firm.
Research shows there’s a mental limit on how many people we can feel deeply connected to; federal data indicates most Canadians have a squad of around five close friends and the famous “Dunbar’s Number” theory suggests 150 friends is the cap for our social networks.
Humans can survive three minutes without air, three days without water, three weeks without food and — according to survival lore — three months without companionship. Whether true or not, what’s clear is that people need people.
You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.
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In a world where there’s much to be taken seriously, it’s important to remember to laugh. Not to make light of the severity of war, discrimination, terror threats, or climate change, but to maintain a perspective that there is still much to be thankful for and to celebrate in your life.