By Emily Hashimoto — 2020
A queer author of color on the limits of language and the maximums of love.
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CLEAR ALL
Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.
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The cynical backlash against the success of the personal growth movement is both frustrating and painful for John Bradshaw, the psychologist and author who coined the term “inner child” and popularised the phrase “dysfunctional family.”
Mr. Bradshaw found fame with books and television shows proposing that emotional and psychological damage experienced in childhood was the root of adult ills.
As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?
The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.
Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.
I wanted to give them better than what I had. It wasn't easy.