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How I Navigated Coming Out to My Traditional Asian Family
By Emily Hashimoto — 2020
A queer author of color on the limits of language and the maximums of love.
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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.4
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