As many conventionally unhappy parents did in the 1950s, my parents stayed together for the sake of the children—they divorced after my youngest brother left home for college.
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How I Navigated Coming Out to My Traditional Asian Family
By Emily Hashimoto — 2020
A queer author of color on the limits of language and the maximums of love.
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