By Emily Hashimoto — 2020
A queer author of color on the limits of language and the maximums of love.
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The children are angry and vulnerable, the father sides with them out of guilt, and stepmothers are just expected to suck it all up
Becoming a stepparent by blending families or marrying someone with kids can be rewarding and fulfilling. If you've never had kids, you'll get the chance to share your life with a younger person and help to shape his or her character.
How to stop hating yourself and your step-kid, as well.
When things get tough, focus on your relationship. It'll get better.
The Kraho people believe a child should have more than one mother. It’s so ingrained in the culture that the Kraho children use the word “inxe” for both their biological mother and their mother’s sisters or the women their mother considers as sisters, even if they’re not related by blood.
Of course, becoming a stepfamily isn't always easy. Bringing two families together under one roof can be quite challenging. Even for the most prepared, growing pains will likely occur when two families merge.