When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.
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What Happens When Your Position Is Eliminated?
By Jonathan Graham — 2021
Jonathan Graham describes how he's tried to heal and offers some advice to others in the same situation -- or who fear they might be.
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