Do not waste time bothering whether you ‘love’ your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will presently come to love him.
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What Happens When Your Position Is Eliminated?
By Jonathan Graham — 2021
Jonathan Graham describes how he's tried to heal and offers some advice to others in the same situation -- or who fear they might be.
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