By Aliya Hamid Rao — 2019
When Americans think about fixing gender equality, they tend to focus on the workplace. But gender equality for women still lags in another realm: their own houses.
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If the burden of domestic responsibilities falls squarely on your shoulders, get inspired by how this writer learned to stop taking on all the emotional labor in her marriage.
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Here’s what to know about the mental load—and how to bring it up with your partner.
Much like the struggle to recognize the economic contributions of childcare for stay-at-home parents, there could be a similar gap in the working world. The definition of emotional labor being used here is that of unpaid, invisible work.
When workers’ emotions deviate from what’s expected of their gender, they are often left to process the backlash on their own.
It’s called emotional labor. And mothers have a lot of it.
'They still hold the mental burden of the household even if others share in the physical work and this mental burden can take a toll,' says report's author.
The household tasks taken over by most moms—including the often invisible emotional work—have increased exponentially.
When it comes to household responsibilities, women perform far more cognitive and emotional labour than men. Why is this, and is there anything we can do about it?
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Emotional labor is the invisible work in families, disproportionately by moms.
“The research is pretty clear that surface acting is almost always bad for you.”