By Elizabeth Bruenig — 2021
No career comes without risk, but early career precarity and minimal savings certainly raise the stakes of having kids in one’s 20s.
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It's hard enough for women to talk about not wanting to become mothers at all, or to admit it isn't all its cracked up to be, but imagine the experience for women who straight-up discover it is not a good fit, a troubling experience, a series of disappointments, a bum deal? There is no good way to...
Not to mention all those emotional adjustments...
For as long as I could remember I wanted to be one of those stay-at-home moms. Damn the two degrees and a promising career. I wanted to raise kids, go to the park, and make cute lunches for us all. Super difficult and thankless job, but I was here for it.
It was a slow realization, taking years to accept and even more time to consider. But I regret that I had children.
Worldwide, mothers are overworked, underpaid, often lonely and made to feel guilty about everything from epidurals to bottle feeding. Fixing this is the unfinished work of feminism.
Being a mom can get lonely even if you're never alone. It's important to make time for friends.
What if our own crucible of self-sacrifice can teach us more about enlightenment than male mystics ever could?