By Elizabeth Bruenig — 2021
No career comes without risk, but early career precarity and minimal savings certainly raise the stakes of having kids in one’s 20s.
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Suicide remains far higher among men than women, and the HSE reports that, in the most recent year of data, the highest rate was among men aged 25-35.
Every woman has an awkward story about her period. And some of that awkwardness might be due to the fact that periods, although a completely natural and vital part of humanity, are shrouded in taboo (in fact, the word taboo, from the Polynesian word tapua, means “menstrual flow”)!
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From the moment we found out we were pregnant, my husband and I promised we would raise our child to embrace both of her cultures and have her spend holidays in both Ghana and the US.
As a four-year-old, Tom used to cling on to his mother at every possible chance; fast forward by ten years he wouldn’t want his mom to enter his room; and now, when he is 25, Tom wouldn’t share his problems with his mom lest she gets worried.
Ideas and expectations regarding gender roles have changed quite a bit in the past 50 years. However, the patterns that have influenced human behavior for centuries are still potent, especially when members of older generations are involved.
Despite my efforts to never instruct either of my kids on gender-specific behavior, and certainly never suggest that anyone but me is the boss of the house, seeing my son exert these typical “manly” qualities made me wonder: Is this just how he is? Or am I somehow informing that he is the...
Along with letting your child seek his own heroes and role models, there are things you can do to allow him to be male. Whether or not you have a man around to show him the ropes, your son can grow up to be an emotionally healthy male just as many boys of single moms have already done.
For generations, mothers have gotten the same old message when it comes to raising sons: beware of keeping him “too close.” A mom who nurtures a deep emotional bond with her boy will prevent him from growing up to be a strong, independent man.
I wanted to foster loving relationships with my boys while raising men I'd be proud to launch into the world. Now my sons are young adults and not one expects me to remain silent or fade into the wallpaper.
Irina Gonzalez is teaching her son to embrace the beauty and diversity that exists within the Latinx community, not the stereotypes she was exposed to in her own childhood.