By Vinita Mehta — 2019
New research explores a taboo topic.
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In a post #MeToo world, many parents of young boys are anxious to find a better way forward for their sons. Luckily, there are many things parents can do to foster a positive environment in which their sons can flourish and thrive, and be proud of who they grow up to be.
The idea that parents could regret their children is inescapably taboo. In an era of baby worship, it’s cross-culturally ingrained and glorified that all individuals, especially women, should want to have children.
Regret is a common emotion experienced by parents. If you find yourself experiencing regret, it doesn’t make you a bad parent, and rest assured that you are not alone. It is important to acknowledge the regret and take steps to cope.
I love my kids fiercely. But, if I’m being totally honest, there are times when I catch myself dreaming about the life I might have if I weren’t chained to three young kids, a husband and a mortgage.
If we can process our regrets with tenderness and compassion, we can use these hard memories as a part of our wisdom bank.
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Being a single father to a daughter can be particularly daunting, as you navigate all the social situations, complex feelings, and developmental changes your daughter experiences throughout her youth—without a firsthand understanding of some of what she's going through.
Some of us regret what we did, some of us regret what we didn’t do… some of us regret all of the above. And since “motherhood without regrets” is really not a thing, let’s have a conversation about how we can soothe the pain of regret in motherhood.
It was a slow realization, taking years to accept and even more time to consider. But I regret that I had children.
Becoming a stepparent by blending families or marrying someone with kids can be rewarding and fulfilling. If you've never had kids, you'll get the chance to share your life with a younger person and help to shape his or her character.
A mother recounts the pushback she received from her own family in raising a gender-nonconforming child.