By Vinita Mehta — 2019
New research explores a taboo topic.
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The pandemic has exacerbated the isolation of early motherhood; some apps are trying to create a safer space for new moms.
I never felt much shame until I had my child.
As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?
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The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.
Many equate self-discipline with living a good, moral life, which ends up creating a lot of shame when we fail. There’s a better way to build lasting, solid self-discipline in your life.
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Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.
Motherhood is supposed to be all about love and joy. So why do so many moms feel so bad?
I am not the only one that has uttered something shitty to their kid. Everyone has had their asshole parent moment(s)(s)(s) while dealing with a kid. But no one really knows that we are all asshole parents because we all suffer in silence over our own parenting disgrace.
When shame takes over, all we want is to get out of its discomfort—and in order to do so we often end up invalidating the other person involved to help ourselves feel better.
A trend that is unfortunately common with individuals and mothers in this generation is “Mom Shaming,” which generally speaking is criticizing a mother for making choices for her child(ren) because they differ from the choices the criticizing person would make.