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Self-Care for Foster Parents

By Creating a Family Staff

Parenting foster children who have come to your home from trauma, neglect or abuse is likely the hardest work you will ever do. It requires you to have a wide variety of tools in your parenting toolbox. Self-care for foster parents is one of the most important tools you can have in that toolbox.

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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.

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We cannot make another person change his or her steps to an old dance, but if we change our own steps, the dance no longer can continue in the same predictable pattern.

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Only through our connectedness to others can we really know and enhance the self. And only through working on the self can we begin to enhance our connectedness to others.

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The miracle is that your children will love you with all your imperfections if you can do the same for them.

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If only our passion to understand others were as great as our passion to be understood. Were this so, all our apologies would be truly meaningful and healing.

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Respect the fact that all you do and are now has evolved for a good reason and serves an important purpose.

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When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.

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When we do not put our primary emotional energy into solving our own problems, we take on other people’s problems as our own.

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Anger is a tool for change when it challenges us to become more of an expert on the self and less of an expert on others.

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Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid.

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