By Rasha Ali — 2019
Moms want to do it all, but even when they do it comes at a detriment to their mental health.
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Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.
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Motherhood is supposed to be all about love and joy. So why do so many moms feel so bad?
The pandemic has exacerbated the isolation of early motherhood; some apps are trying to create a safer space for new moms.
I never felt much shame until I had my child.
As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?
The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.
Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.
Guilt and shame can lead to depression, anxiety, and paranoia, but they also nudge us to behave better. Research suggests that they serve an important, adaptive function important for human survival.
At the end of the day, guilt and shame are crucial social emotions, as they keep people from acting in pure self-interest.
I wanted to give them better than what I had. It wasn't easy.