By Desiree Jury
In the late 20th century, work, school, social and personal demands which had previously been structured and sequential—analog—went suddenly digital.
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How to make it work at home.
Author Jancee Dunn couldn’t believe how furious she would get at her husband after they had a baby. Here are her tips for working through it.
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My husband and I grope each other constantly. I don’t think a day goes by without at least one of us copping a feel. I say this proudly because after almost 20 years of being together, we are still hot for each other. And I don’t see any reason to hide this from our kids.
As a sex therapist and neuroscientist, I’m often called upon to help clients cope with the ups and downs (and ins and outs) of rebooting their sex lives after parenthood. The truth: Finding your way back to satisfying sex can be a big challenge.
Don’t wait for the most convenient time to rebuild intimacy. You’ll be waiting a long time.
Having a child is undeniably one of the greatest joys life brings, but it’s also an adjustment.
A baby changes everything—including, oftentimes, your interest in sex. Still, the goal isn’t to get the “old you” back. It’s to figure out who you are now.
If you have ADHD, you might find it hard to date, make friends, or parent. That’s partly because good relationships require you to be aware of other people's thoughts and feelings. But ADHD can make it hard for you to pay attention or react the right way.
Conflict doesn’t mean the end of your remarriage, and can actually make it stronger. There are always going to be disagreements; you cannot avoid them entirely. What you can do, however, is become skilled at recovering from disputes by talking about your perspectives afterwards.
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The last time I had sex was on my son’s 1st birthday — and he just turned 4. As he blew out the candles on his cake, I silently blew out candles on my own imaginary cake: “Happy not having sex for three years.”