By Gary Stix — 2020
The preeminent sociologist Arlie Russell Hochschild discusses the control over one’s feelings needed to go to work every day during a pandemic.
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When it comes to household responsibilities, women perform far more cognitive and emotional labour than men. Why is this, and is there anything we can do about it?
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Emotional labor is the invisible work in families, disproportionately by moms.
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Calling holiday planning “emotional labor” can be counterproductive to recognizing housework as labor.
Being in any type of relationship involves some level of emotional commitment, which can, at times, feel draining. But, if you carry a disproportionately large load of the emotional labor in relationships, that level of drain is likely high and potentially unsustainable.
In our rush to bring greater awareness to gender frustrations that we’re just beginning to talk about publicly, we should remember that not all kinds of gender and relationship problems are in fact, emotional labor.
If the burden of domestic responsibilities falls squarely on your shoulders, get inspired by how this writer learned to stop taking on all the emotional labor in her marriage.
You can take concrete steps to more equitably divide emotional labor with your partner — starting with talking openly about the dynamic.
The phrase “emotional labor” . . . refers to “a situation where the way a person manages his or her emotions is regulated by a work-related entity in order to shape the state of mind of another individual, such as a customer.”
From remembering birthdays to offering service with a smile, life has a layer of daily responsibility that is hardly discussed—one which falls disproportionately on women. Finally confronting it could be a revolutionary step.
Emotional labor is the unpaid job men still don't understand.