By Peg Streep — 2020
Looking at the collateral damage we rarely talk about.
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CLEAR ALL
A mother recounts the pushback she received from her own family in raising a gender-nonconforming child.
When things get tough, focus on your relationship. It'll get better.
“We’re raising our girls to be perfect, and we’re raising our boys to be brave,” Girls Who Code founder Reshma Saujani has argued in a viral TED Talk. The difference is important.
The children are angry and vulnerable, the father sides with them out of guilt, and stepmothers are just expected to suck it all up
We’ve all heard of the gender pay gap in the workplace (including the so-called “motherhood penalty” and “fatherhood bonus”), but research shows that inequitable compensation between boys and girls starts in the home, with chores and allowance.
The world puts limits on girls, telling them what they can't do because they are girls. As a result, girls learn to play it safe, look pretty and smile. Instead, we can teach her to use phrases such as "I will try," "I can improve," and "I am going to do this."
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How to make it work at home.
How (and why) they find the time to parent and find a partner.
Feelings of ambivalence about parenthood aren’t necessarily going to do harm to children. But when regret suffuses the parent-child dynamic, the whole family can suffer.
My husband and I grope each other constantly. I don’t think a day goes by without at least one of us copping a feel. I say this proudly because after almost 20 years of being together, we are still hot for each other. And I don’t see any reason to hide this from our kids.