By Eva Grape — 2021
The influence of my Borderline Personality Disorder mother on my friendship style.
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"Grown don't mean nothing to a mother. A child is a child. They get bigger, older, but grown? What's that suppose to mean? In my heart, it don't mean a thing." — From Beloved, by Toni Morrison
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Despite the ongoing need to test limits, kids also need to learn the importance of respect for others — and respect begins at home.
You not calling, as a friend, can actually compound the grief and loss they are feeling. Just pick up the phone, even if you get it wrong, just have a conversation and do your best. Your friend with cancer is still the same person they were before.
If you think about it, our children must be separated from us for eight to 12 hours while they sleep. Mornings are a great opportunity to reconnect with your child after all of those hours of separation.
Do you have a strained or complicated relationship with your mother? Maybe difficulties from childhood carried over into your adult relationships, setting the stage for complications with romantic partners or your own children.
The household tasks taken over by most moms—including the often invisible emotional work—have increased exponentially.
When it comes to household responsibilities, women perform far more cognitive and emotional labour than men. Why is this, and is there anything we can do about it?
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Sharing your feelings with your children does not mean dumping your anger on them or blaming them for your troubles.