By Devanie Angel — 2004
How Chico State Prof. Janja Lalich went from cult member to author-expert.
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It’s been challenging for me to witness the victim mentality that’s become popular in mainstream narratives. I’m a woman, person of color, and daughter of immigrants. I don’t perceive myself as a victim.
The Black community is more inclined to say that mental illness is associated with shame and embarrassment. Individuals and families in the Black community are also more likely to hide the illness.
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Just like with financial diversification, you should also invest in several different areas of your identity.
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We often see our jobs as a defining detail of who we are, yet too closely tying our identities to work can be dangerous. What can we do about it?
These hindrances are Universal, but they don’t have to maintain a death-like grip on our present experience. We can be empowered to relax into who we truly are, and start to witness the nature of oneness unfolding before our eyes.
Above all else, you will begin to love the person you see in the mirror every day. The false perception of victimhood will fall away, and the victorious nature of life and living will become your new way of operating in the world.
A real relationship is steeped in an inner knowing of ones’ inherent value. It blooms from well-loved and maintained foundation of self-knowledge, self-respect and clear values.
Many equate self-discipline with living a good, moral life, which ends up creating a lot of shame when we fail. There’s a better way to build lasting, solid self-discipline in your life.
Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others. We can’t base our own worthiness on others’ approval (and this is coming from someone who spent years trying to please everyone!).