By The Irish Times — 1999
The cynical backlash against the success of the personal growth movement is both frustrating and painful for John Bradshaw, the psychologist and author who coined the term “inner child” and popularised the phrase “dysfunctional family.”
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“Even where I live in St. Paul, known nationally for being the ‘crossroads of recovery,’” William said, “the stigma prevents people from thinking about alcoholics and other drug addicts as ‘good people with a bad illness.’”
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Shame typically comes up when you look inward with a critical eye and evaluate yourself harshly, often for things you have little control over.
After decades of obscurity-- confused with and overshadowed by guilt — shame is increasingly recognized as a powerful, painful and potentially dangerous emotion,- especially for those who don’t understand its origins or know how to manage it.
Guilt and shame can lead to depression, anxiety, and paranoia, but they also nudge us to behave better. Research suggests that they serve an important, adaptive function important for human survival.
At the end of the day, guilt and shame are crucial social emotions, as they keep people from acting in pure self-interest.
I became a drug addict only years after I'd discovered my first true love: Compulsive thieving.
These four avenues can lead you toward self-forgiveness.
At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.
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