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Criticism Is the Toxic Habit that Can Slowly Ruin Your Relationship

By Kelsey Borresen — 2019

Experts say this common communication issue can push couples apart.

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When forgiveness experts talk in binary language (’You either forgive the wrongdoer or you are a prisoner of your own anger and hate’), they are collapsing the messy complexity of human emotions into a simplistic dichotomous equation.

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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.

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Anger is inevitable when our lives consist of giving in and going along; when we assume responsibility for other people’s feelings and reactions; when we relinquish our primary responsibility to proceed with our own growth and ensure the quality of our own lives; when we behave as if having a...

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Feeling angry signals a problem, venting anger does not solve it. Venting anger may serve to maintain, and even rigidify, the old rules and patterns in a relationship, thus ensuring that change does not occur.

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How ironic that the difficult times we fear might ruin us are the very ones that can break us open and help us blossom into who we were meant to be.

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What Is “Intimacy Avoidance”? (Glossary of Narcissistic Relationships)

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Ramani Durvasula
2020
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How To Spot A Cheater: Experts Reveal The Warning Signs - TODAY

Megyn Kelly TODAY welcomes psychologist Ramani Durvasula and relationship expert Logan Levkoff for a discussion of how to spot cheating in a relationship. They also discuss “microcheating,” which Levkoff says is “in the eye of the beholder.”

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Ramani Durvasula
2018
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Should I Stay or Should I Go: Surviving a Relationship with a Narcissist

How do you know if you are in a relationship with a narcissist—and what can you do about it? Narcissism is a modern epidemic—and it’s spreading rapidly. Narcissists tend to be pretty on the outside, but empty on the inside.

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Ramani S. Durvasula
2017
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Foolproof Advice on How to Have a Great Marriage

Marriage isn’t easy. Anyone who tells you otherwise is trying to sell you something. But it can be fun. And fulfilling. And, more than anything, it can be a strong foundation on which you construct a meaningful and rewarding life.

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Helen LaKelly Hunt
2015
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Can One Person Save a Marriage? Absolutely.

Oftentimes one person in a relationship is more interested in improving a relationship than the other. Is it possible for one partner to save a relationship on his or her own? Harville Hendrix and our panel of experts discuss.

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Helen LaKelly Hunt
2015
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Criticism and Rejection