By Steve Friedman — 2019
How can a spurned lover make his case? In this essay — the first Modern Love column ever published, exactly 15 years ago — one writer counts the ways.
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It can be easy to get caught up in your relationship, but focusing on two different concepts; self care and self love, can help you stay in-tune with yourself so that you can be more present for yourself, your partner and your relationship.
So what is this Imago stuff, and why is it so popular? The complete theory is a multifaceted model explaining attraction, conflict and healing within intimate relationships.
Fear plays a huge role in relationships, and two fears in particular cause some of the biggest problems. If you understand how these two fears work, you’re much more likely to attract a healthy relationship into your life.
For over two decades, I have worked with men and women from around the world to help them improve their relationships.
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Many people believe that if you meet the right person and fall in love, you are meant to be with this person. That there won’t be anything you will ever want to change about them. That it should just work out.
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The five stages of a relationship are the Merge, Doubt and Denial, Disillusionment, the Decision, and Wholehearted Love. Every single relationship moves through these five stages—though not only once.
While some couples are happier than others, and some are definitely more compatible, every couple has arguments or really difficult conversations at least once in a while. It's normal, but not everyone talks about them.
There’s no guidebook for relationship struggles – but there are ways to deal with them.
When it comes to relationships, most of us are winging it.
Traits that don’t fit our traditional narrative of what love should be are actually necessary ingredients for a healthy relationship.
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