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Just Friends? Let Me Read Between the Lines

By Steve Friedman — 2019

How can a spurned lover make his case? In this essay — the first Modern Love column ever published, exactly 15 years ago — one writer counts the ways.

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Becoming Emotionally Self-Reliant

I’m the first to admit that for many years, I was a bit emotionally needy. Not in a crazy, desperate way, but in the way that many of us are. I wanted someone else to make me happy, blamed others for my unhappiness, sought to fulfill my emotional needs through others.

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Leo Babauta
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Self Care vs. Self Love: How to Love Yourself in a Relationship

It can be easy to get caught up in your relationship, but focusing on two different concepts; self care and self love, can help you stay in-tune with yourself so that you can be more present for yourself, your partner and your relationship.

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Caitlin Killoren
2020
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The Real Problem with Sexual Withholding in a Marriage

The problem with sexual withholding in a marriage has far less to do with actually having or not having sex and much more to do with misunderstanding.

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Suzanne Phillips
2015
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Withholding: A Personal Story

Are you sometimes aware of holding yourself back from being fully engaged in the experience of the moment? Do you find yourself avoiding activities that bring you pleasure or friends you enjoy spending time with?

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Naomi Firestone
2013
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“Withholders” vs. “Conceders”: A Damaging Conflict Pattern

Relationship dances between these two types can become very complicated.

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Randi Gunther
2018
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The Art of Listening: An Interview with Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

1440: Is it true that on the whole we're not very good listeners? Harville: In the resting state, when we're not distracted, the research shows we have a 13–18% accuracy rate.

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Jenn Brown
2019
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Relationship Epidemic: Shutting Out Body Wisdom

Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what’s going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow. The technical term for this problem is “alexithymia.”

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Kathlyn Hendricks, Gay Hendricks
2010
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Relationship Intelligence: The Key to Picking a Life Partner

For over two decades, I have worked with men and women from around the world to help them improve their relationships.

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Mark Wolynn
2013
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My Friend Is Dating Someone Terrible, Or, Secrets of the Darth Vader Boyfriend

You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.

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Jennifer Peepas
2011
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Marshall Rosenberg’s Nonviolent Communication (NVC)

The communication technique of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg provides a way to communicate with our partners safely and peacefully.

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William Stierle
2020
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