By Steve Friedman — 2019
How can a spurned lover make his case? In this essay — the first Modern Love column ever published, exactly 15 years ago — one writer counts the ways.
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I feel like dating used to be so simple. People meet, they arrange a time and place and hopefully it turns into happily ever after. Fast forward to now, where almost nothing is done face to face anymore — especially this year.
Why do unmarried women have to choose between motherhood and a love life? Can't we try for both at the same time?
How do you find time? Is it better to date someone else who also has kids? And when should you introduce them?
When you fixate on what others are or aren’t doing based on their astrology, you can weave a narrative that’s both convincing and convenient, but true intimacy can't be developed when you're operating from ideas about what you think you know about a person.
The question of what makes a healthy couple has been the subject of much research, writing, and theorizing. Through her years of experience as a couple therapist, Dr.
Psychological flexibility is fundamental to healthy livingTrusted Source, so it's not surprising that within the context of romantic relationships, flexibility is also important for healthy functioning.
Learning to express anger in a healthy way will help couples resolve conflicts, instead of letting them simmer.
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Passive-aggressiveness includes the obvious passive, withdrawn or apathetic approach to relationships. This approach will spill over into all sort of adult relationships, from friendships, intimate partners, school and on to the workplace.
Young, single women in the U.S. are outearning their male peers and outnumbering men in high-paying management jobs. But while you're climbing the ranks at work, a growing number of men seem to be losing their drive.
The very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.