By Steve Friedman — 2019
How can a spurned lover make his case? In this essay — the first Modern Love column ever published, exactly 15 years ago — one writer counts the ways.
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So what is this Imago stuff, and why is it so popular? The complete theory is a multifaceted model explaining attraction, conflict and healing within intimate relationships.
Fear plays a huge role in relationships, and two fears in particular cause some of the biggest problems. If you understand how these two fears work, you’re much more likely to attract a healthy relationship into your life.
Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what’s going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow. The technical term for this problem is “alexithymia.”
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For over two decades, I have worked with men and women from around the world to help them improve their relationships.
You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.
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The communication technique of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg provides a way to communicate with our partners safely and peacefully.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” ~Nelson Mandela
A divorce experts weighs in on handling the specific stressors, bias, and a legacy that will take time to change.
Leaning on your support network, consuming information with care, and being present with your children all help you stay healthy during such a difficult and stressful time.
You’ll emerge stronger, wiser, courageous, and bolder than before.