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“A Little Girl We Barely Know Is Coming to Live with Us”: How One Writer, Unexpectedly, Became a Father
By Bill Clegg — 2020
As we pack up her things—some clothes, diapers, and a few stuffed animals—a realization hits me: A little girl we barely know is coming home to live with us.
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