By Bruce Feiler — 2011
Here are six things you should never say to a friend (or relative or colleague) who’s sick. And four things you can always say.
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People’s sense of self-worth is pivotal to their ability to look clearly at the hurt they’ve caused. The more solid one’s sense of self regard, the more likely that that person can feel empathy and compassion for the hurt party, and apologize from an authentic center.
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The best apologies are short, and don’t go on to include explanations that run the risk of undoing them. An apology isn’t the only chance you ever get to address the underlying issue. The apology is the chance you get to establish the ground for future communication.
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Friendship . . . is born at the moment when one man says to another, ‘What! You too? I thought that no one but myself . . .’
In this video, Dr. Allison shares a simple formula for delivering a compassionate and comforting response to those we care about most.
Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh says listening can help end the suffering of an individual, put an end to war and change the world for the better. Watch as he explains how to practice compassionate listening.
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