By Malia Wollan — 2018
Remember that it’s not about you.
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Conflict doesn’t mean the end of your remarriage, and can actually make it stronger. There are always going to be disagreements; you cannot avoid them entirely. What you can do, however, is become skilled at recovering from disputes by talking about your perspectives afterwards.
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When a friend first presented to me the arguments for gay marriage, in 1994, I thought the whole idea was ridiculous. In the face of staggering prejudice against us, marriage felt so remote as to be irrelevant.
The very qualities that lead to greater emotional satisfaction in peer marriages, as one sociologist calls them, may be having an unexpectedly negative impact on these couples’ sex lives.
The people you surround yourself with have a profound impact on your happiness.
“Our boyfriends, our significant others, and our husbands are supposed to be No. 1. Our worlds are backward.”
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In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These may be things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money.
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Amma’s advice for couples.
Applying Buddhist teachings to emotional healing with relationships, marriage, and lust.