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What We Can Learn from the Best Marriages

By Kira M. Newman — 2017

Relationships today are facing challenges that are unique to modern times. A new book offers three strategies to help yours thrive.

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Famed Author Gary Chapman Talks Love, Marriage, Sex

Relationships that are successful tend to take the attitude: "How can I help you?" "How can I enrich your life?" "How can I be a better husband to you," if it's a marriage. "How can I be a better wife to you?" And what we want to do is to enhance each other's lives.

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Luiza Oleszczuk
2012
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Why You Will Marry the Wrong Person

Romanticism has been unhelpful to us; it is a harsh philosophy. It has made a lot of what we go through in marriage seem exceptional and appalling. We end up lonely and convinced that our union, with its imperfections, is not “normal.

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Alain de Botton
2016
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Managing vs. Resolving Conflict in Relationships: The Blueprints for Success

In The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, Dr. John Gottman’s research proves that 69% of problems in a relationship are unsolvable. These may be things like personality traits your partner has that rub you the wrong way, or long-standing issues around spending and saving money.

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Marni Feuerman
2017
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Why Even the Best Marriages Are Hard Sometimes

Everyone who just got married is psyched about it. It’s a new adventure they’re embarking on with their best friend forever. Everyone who has been married for 50 years or more is psyched about it. They’re living with their oldest friend, it’s been a trip, totally worth it.

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Belinda Luscombe
2018
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Keeping Marriages Healthy, and Why It’s So Difficult

After two people stand before everyone important to them in the world and publicly declare that they love each other and intend to remain together for the rest of their lives, everything social psychology has learned about the stability of publicly declared opinions suggests that these will be the...

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What You Lose When You Gain a Spouse

In America today, it’s easy to believe that marriage is a social good—that our lives and our communities are better when more people get and stay married.

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Mandy Len Catron
2019
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Harville Hendrix Wants to Save America, One Marriage at a Time

What happens when marriage counselors want to heal society? Relationship gurus Harville Hendrix (called the “marriage whisperer” by Oprah) and his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, are so convinced that keeping couples together is the key to societal happiness and prosperity that they have launched a...

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Pacific Standard
2017
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The One Thing You Need to Do to Save Your Marriage

Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt, authors of Making Marriage Simple: 10 Truths for Changing the Relationship You Have into the One You Want, reveal a strategy they discovered in their own struggles, which can lead to a massive, permanent turnaround.

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Leigh Newman
2013
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The Marriage Repair Kit

When we fall in love, we see life in Technicolor. We nibble each other's ears and tell each other everything; our limitations and rigidities melt away. We're sexier, smarter, funnier, more giving. We feel whole; we're connected.

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Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt
2003
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What Wedding Vows and Other Commitments Get Wrong

When you are not emotionally transparent, it creates a negative domino effect. You build up resentment and start acting differently towards your partner, which in turn creates distance in your relationship.

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Kathlyn Hendricks and Gay Hendricks
2015
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