By Deepak Chopra — 2012
Spiritual teacher Deepak Chopra explains how to recover from life's deepest blows.
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The pain of betrayal can be excruciating, and more likely than not, it's something you've experienced. Results from a survey I recently conducted, showed that 90% of people 35 or older have experienced betrayal.
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Betrayal leaves us at a fork in the road. We can choose to act in ways that either favor or impede personal growth: we can become stuck in a bad moment forever or we can put it behind us for good. We decide our path.
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Betrayal or violated trust can be incredibly jolting. In a sense, it can feel traumatic because it catches us totally off guard and threatens the (false) sense of security we project on others. Feel your sadness or anger. Cry, scream, journal, or hit a pillow.
Until you've been through it, it's hard to know how it feels. There are 12 stages that we go through, and sometimes it takes a long time to move from stage to stage.
You and your relationship partner committed to each other long ago. And then, one day, much to your surprise, your partner sits down next to you, looking very serious, almost somber.
Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. Discovering that someone we trusted has deeply hurt us pulls the reality rug from under us.
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