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The Difference Between Setting Boundaries and Shutting People Out
By Holly Hurban
After growing up in a household with extremely loose emotional boundaries, I soon learned the importance of establishing my own personal boundaries as quickly and clearly as possible. And, in recent years, I have even managed to become more eloquent about when and how to set them.
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Positive energy is your priceless life force. Protect it. Don’t allow people to draw from your reserves; select friends who recharge your energies. . . I’m not asking you to cut people out of your life, but I am asking you to invest your time with people who will push you to be your best.