By Lori H. Gordon — 2016
How relationships are sabotaged by hidden expectations.
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Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.
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Motherhood is supposed to be all about love and joy. So why do so many moms feel so bad?
The pandemic has exacerbated the isolation of early motherhood; some apps are trying to create a safer space for new moms.
I never felt much shame until I had my child.
As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?
The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.
Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.
I wanted to give them better than what I had. It wasn't easy.
Many equate self-discipline with living a good, moral life, which ends up creating a lot of shame when we fail. There’s a better way to build lasting, solid self-discipline in your life.
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