By Ali Pattillo — 2020
Envy can be used for good.
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Here’s what jealousy means, what healthy jealousy can look like, what causes it, and how to deal.
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Jealousy is not always rational and it doesn’t discriminate, so what causes this exceptionally strong emotion?
Jealousy and envy are emotions that everyone experiences from time to time (whether it be in the context of friendships, romance or work), but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to deal with these feelings.
Learn to recognize and cope with envy and jealousy
Jealousy is a complex emotion that encompasses feelings ranging from suspicion to rage to fear to humiliation. It strikes people of all ages, genders, and sexual orientations, and is most typically aroused when a person perceives a threat to a valued relationship from a third party.
Autoimmunity—which affects three quarters more women than it does men—encompasses a range of conditions and diseases that involve the immune system mistakenly attacking the body’s own organs, tissues, and cells.
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Positive thinking has clear benefits. For a 2003 study, scientists asked undergraduates at the University of California, Davis to write weekly about their experiences. One group wrote about what they felt grateful for, and the other about what had annoyed them.
A real relationship is steeped in an inner knowing of ones’ inherent value. It blooms from well-loved and maintained foundation of self-knowledge, self-respect and clear values.
I’m the first to admit that for many years, I was a bit emotionally needy. Not in a crazy, desperate way, but in the way that many of us are. I wanted someone else to make me happy, blamed others for my unhappiness, sought to fulfill my emotional needs through others.
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A mental health day is a great time to indulge in self-care. Nevertheless, only practicing self-care once in a while isn’t always enough.