By Ali Pattillo — 2020
Envy can be used for good.
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If we learn to see our relationships as the wonderfully accurate mirrors they are, revealing to us where we need to go with our own inner process, we can see much about ourselves that we would otherwise have a great deal of difficulty learning.
Everything in our lives reflects where we are in the process of developing integration and balance.
An interview with Shefali Tsabary, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist, international keynote speaker and bestselling author of The Conscious Parent, Out of Control and her latest, The Awakened Family.
Envy can be turned into joy for the very person you envy.
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Envy turns life into an endless competition that nobody wins.
Conventional wisdom says happy people have no use for envy. But jealousy can also be a tool if used wisely.
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We’re usually envious of things to do with status or possessions, though, as we’ll discover, what we envy changes significantly with our age, gender, and social status.
Jealousy and envy occupy a unique space on the spectrum of emotion in that they are simultaneously ubiquitous and invisible.
We live in an age when envy comes easy. Most of us walk around all day with a device in our hand that can show us the best of people’s lives with just a swipe and a click—we even sleep next to it at night.
All too often kids are snared by the comparison trap. They see the successes and gifts of others but instead of celebrating with them, they can only see their own shortcomings. When this happens, it is easy for envy and jealousy to blossom.