By Jenny Chen — 2015
New research shows differences in the brains of kids who show excessive guilty behavior, which may put them at risk for a host of mood disorders later in life.
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Guilt and shame can lead to depression, anxiety, and paranoia, but they also nudge us to behave better. Research suggests that they serve an important, adaptive function important for human survival.
Our culture has taught us that we do not have the privilege of being vulnerable like other communities.
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As parents, we need to step off our pedestal, stop dominating our kids, and instead treat them as we like to be treated. After all, do you like being shamed? Does it bring out the best in you?
The mild feeling of shame — the prefrontal cortex clutch shifting — is how kids learn to shift themselves from "forbidden" behavior to acceptable behavior.
Here's what you need to know about shaming your kids online and in public, including examples of shaming words that single parents, in particular, should avoid.
At the end of the day, guilt and shame are crucial social emotions, as they keep people from acting in pure self-interest.
I wanted to give them better than what I had. It wasn't easy.
At a weekend workshop I led, one of the participants, Marian, shared her story about the shame and guilt that had tortured her.