We must not confuse letting go of past injuries with feeling an obligation to let the injurers back into our life. The freedom of forgiveness often includes a firm boundary and loving distance from those who have harmed us.
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It Didn’t Start with You: The Mystery of Inherited Trauma
By Mark Matousek — 2016
A revealing talk with Mark Wolynn of the Family Constellation Institute.
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