By Deepak Chopra — 2014
Deepak Chopra explains how to open up—and feel more connected.
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CLEAR ALL
All of us have had the experience of being alone. Periods of solitude, whether self-imposed or otherwise, can bring clarity to personal uncertainties by drawing us into contemplative introspection. But what about loneliness, that desperate longing for connection?
Virtually everyone experiences loneliness from time to time, with many people becoming especially aware of feelings of loneliness around the holiday season, Valentine’s Day, and during times of extreme stress.
A person can feel separate in a crowd, with a group of friends, even in the midst of a large family. Loneliness is not a friendless state; it is the major symptom of the world.
Loneliness is contagious, heritable, affects one in four people – and increases the chances of early death by 20% – says US social neuroscientist John Cacioppo. The good news? He thinks it can be treated.
We’ve all felt lonely from time to time. But sometimes, things can get out of hand. Psychologist Guy Winch lays out some straightforward tips to deal with the pain of deep loneliness.
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I catch some things here and there: a scurrying chipmunk crosses the path, a patch of sunlight glimmers ahead of me. But mostly, I’m in my head and in my feet as I cross a metaphorical finish line, completing my mileage for the day.
Learning to live with grief and loneliness after the death of a spouse.
Failing to manage your anger can lead to a variety of problems like saying things you regret, yelling at your kids, threatening your co-workers, sending rash emails, developing health problems, or even resorting to physical violence.
In the past 10 years, I've realized that our culture is rife with ideas that actually inhibit joy. Here are some of the things I'm most grateful to have unlearned:
Teaching on the Tibetan yogi Milarepa, Chögyam Trungpa Rinpoche describes the experience of desolateness. Like Milarepa when he meditated in his cave, when we are alone, we may begin a love affair with sadness.