By Vita Lagalla — 2020
You’ll emerge stronger, wiser, courageous, and bolder than before.
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CLEAR ALL
Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., one of North America's leading authorities on communication and relationships, talks about why we fall in and out of love; how to heal yourself after a divorce; and how to talk -- and listen -- powerfully.
Most of us struggle at one time or another with an inability to feel what’s going on inside us at the level of emotion and energy flow. The technical term for this problem is “alexithymia.”
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When you think of your mother, does your heart open with compassion or tighten with resentment? Do you allow yourself to feel her tenderness and care? The way we receive our mother’s love can be similar to how we experience love from a partner.
You can’t talk someone out of being in love with Darth Vader, and sadly, the worse it gets the more your friend might try to talk himself into trying to make it work because if there is a happy ending all the ways he’s had to abase himself to stay in the relationship will have been “worth it.
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From a Buddhist standpoint, there’s nothing to win in a relationship, just as there’s nothing to win in life—except, of course, the deep satisfaction that comes from appreciation, collaboration, and love.
The communication technique of Non-Violent Communication (NVC) developed by Dr. Marshall Rosenberg provides a way to communicate with our partners safely and peacefully.
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” ~Nelson Mandela
A divorce experts weighs in on handling the specific stressors, bias, and a legacy that will take time to change.
Leaning on your support network, consuming information with care, and being present with your children all help you stay healthy during such a difficult and stressful time.
Use “negative reappraisal,” and understand you have work to do—time alone may not be enough.